College professor dating former student
A scenario that has been raising concern on college campuses might go something like this: He is a middle-aged English professor, an expert on Henry James, who appears worldly and sophisticated in his tweed jacket while lecturing to his class. The appropriateness of faculty-student dating is being discussed on campuses throughout Westchester, echoing a nationwide debate about whether such relationships should be tolerated, regulated or banned altogether.She is an 18-year-old freshman, starry eyed and entranced by her teacher's apparent brilliance and sensitivity. Faculty members at the University of Virginia recently voted to prohibit sexual relationships between professors and the students they supervise.
A Gray Area Representatives from the State University of New York at Purchase, Marymount College, Sarah Lawrence College, Pace University, Westchester Community College, Iona College and Mercy College also said that such relationships were discouraged by the administration though not specifically addressed in college policies.Everyone brings up the case of the long-term, happy relationship, but that's a rarity.What you are really trying to do is smoke out the professor who every semester picks up a student to have a relationship with -- the habitual offender," she said.Most college administrators suggested that if there is real mutual attraction and affection between a faculty member and a student, it can wait until the status of one member of the relationship changes."Even if quite genuine love developed between two people that was not intended by either to take advantage of the other, I would be most comfortable with its not being acted out until either the student graduated or the faculty member was no longer the employee of the college," Dr. Margaret Keady Goldberg, of Bronxville, married her former English professor at Marymount College, but said she did not start dating her future husband until two years after she graduated. Goldberg, said that love-stricken students were an occupational hazard for her husband, who died several years ago.Kolodzinski, dean of students on the Pleasantville-Briarcliff campus of Pace University.
"There are many variables in a situation like this," Dean Kolodzinski said.
A survey of Westchester colleges and universities revealed that no formal policies addressing faculty-student dating are in place, but many schools said that a prohibition against such relationships is implicit in other policies regulating professional conduct.
"We view this kind of relationship as inappropriate," said James Bryan, Dean of Students at Manhattanville College.
I can understand certain circumstances where the professor appears almost God-like and therefore is highly regarded by the student.
The young person can feel in love and can fall prey to any manipulation on the part of the professor," he said. Cancro said that under such circumstances it is the professor's responsibility to maintain the boundaries of the relationship.
"I can understand the impulse to legislate against this kind of thing," said Dr.